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Jul 1Liked by Chelsey Feder

A rec for you! Kaitlin Butts is married to the lead singer of another band, Flatland Cavalry. They are great, and good background noise for those restful moments. Hang in there mama! I am right there with you- not much margin time around here these days either.

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Hang in there, Chelsey! I promise it does get better AND that it's more than okay to be 100% unproductive during the margin time ♡ Even with older kids when there are super full seasons with family and work stuff I will just let everything else go ~ not read any newsletters or keep up with my bookish hobbies, not pick up my quilting stuff for months on end, exclusively read addictive romance series straight through, go to bed at 7:00 pm ..... do whatever fills you in the moment, even if that's leaning back and closing your eyes while the little one plays and just ..... being. I know how annoying it is when people like me say, "it goes so fast!", and that's simply because 16 years down the road, all we remember of the stage you're in is a few specific moments and just an overall vibe of exhaustion and we honestly wish we would have bottled up something, anything to take us back there so we could do it all again, because even though we don't want the hard parts, we just simply want the time back. But for real ~ hang in there, sometimes things really do suck, and it's okay to wish they were over.

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Jul 1Liked by Chelsey Feder

Thank you for your words on seasons and margins! We’re in the middle of teething with my eight month old and even though everyone says this would happen, I’ve been struggling with how our routines change so much every day. I put a lot of pressure on myself to take advantage of margin time, but I’m going to keep your words in mind to try to take myself off the hook. Thank you for sharing where you are in this season and I hope you are getting a lot of rest!

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I relate to your thoughts on your current state of motherhood a lot. I struggle with being interrupted so I often just don't bother with creative pursuits and hobbies. I'm just surviving or doing my best to transform into a vegetable. I started watching My Lady Jane today and it's not what I was expecting! I might revisit it later. I was looking for something more serious.

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Jul 1Liked by Chelsey Feder

Oh your sentiments about seasons and margins hit me hard. I’ve been feeling creatively challenged the last few weeks and I suspect it might be some burnout. It’s so hard to keep trudging on when sometimes you just want to let the time slip by unaccounted for. I hope you’re taking all the time you need to rest.

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